tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35760568.post1702696579449730725..comments2023-05-22T02:39:59.540-05:00Comments on BigTea: The work of friendshipBig Teahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11021490083994444757noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35760568.post-37088037047787472592013-12-14T17:38:09.041-06:002013-12-14T17:38:09.041-06:00Thanks for the response, and it is sad but friends...Thanks for the response, and it is sad but friendships change and it isn't our fault and many times its not the others fault either.<br />Big Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11021490083994444757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35760568.post-4051113220329441372013-12-14T12:28:26.256-06:002013-12-14T12:28:26.256-06:00Ihad a friend who never "requited" my at...Ihad a friend who never "requited" my attempts to keep our friendship intact. When I realized that every call I made to him turned into a long listening session about him and hisfamily and his work with only a minute of his time to hear about my life I began to doubt his interest in me. When it came to pass that he never initiated contact with me, I let it go. Sad, but true and healthy for me. Your<br /> blog nails it. Well said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35760568.post-7207874345142458192013-12-08T01:06:08.833-06:002013-12-08T01:06:08.833-06:00Thanks for reading my meanderings. I think we all...Thanks for reading my meanderings. I think we all have to take a look at what we bring to our various friendships. Then we have to decide if it is enough or even too much because I think both are possible.Big Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11021490083994444757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35760568.post-50339630883207558902013-12-07T13:21:40.843-06:002013-12-07T13:21:40.843-06:00I've been thinking and thinking about this and...I've been thinking and thinking about this and realize I have a HUGE disconnect when it comes to how I do friendship...compared to what I expect from a friend. <br /><br />So here's the deal...My interactions are ALL about me and what I want or need in my relationship. And when I think about it, quite honestly, what I "want or need" usually is all about that friend's transparency and growth. I find that their reaction to me doing the friendship the way I want doesn't at all phase me. If I'm getting what I want/need then it's a "successful" relationship. <br /><br />With that said, I don't just ignore their reactions...I constantly readjust my expectations, based on what the friend actually does or doesn't do, and therefore my assessment of what they're capable of. But all the fulfillment and joy of a friendship comes from how friends grow and evolve. <br /><br />Given that's what I'm looking for, it makes sense that I just haven't ever noticed who contacts who or who arranges what...because either way, I'm still getting what I want out of the relationship if I get to watch people grow and evolve...especially if there's a BUNCH of fun thrown in along the way...like going to see Christmas lights...or watching Christmas movies...but NOT 80s Edition Trivial Pursuit - that game should be banned! <br /><br />THANKS for so clearly talking about this. It really made me think. As I put it down in words here, I realize I sound a bit selfish and pretty darn controlling or pushy!! Oh dear. MORE to think about. Thanks, Big Tea! NancyJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02852780265632396155noreply@blogger.com